Sharing Our Perspectives: Feedback from Julianne

 

Julianne wrote us as she was expecting her first child at the age of 38. We can’t wait to hear the rest of her story!

Julianne as an Expectant Mom

Julianne as an Expectant Mom

 

Q:  How did you react to getting the Advanced Maternal Age stamp on your medical chart (or having that label applied to you) What did it mean to you–if anything?

A:  I knew the risks and rewards before starting the whole process. I knew that it could be harder for me to get pregnant, and that kids of older parents are at greater risk for certain conditions. However I also knew that the time was right for my husband (currently 42) and myself (currently 38). We started trying a couple of years ago and I got pregnant within 4 months of discontinuing birth control. I then had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I do think that this was meant to be because it put the pregnancy and our lives into a certain perspective and allowed us to know that this was truly what we wanted. The miscarriage itself was not traumatic to me, though sad. The aftermath of the miscarriage seemed to go on forever, the bleeding wouldn’t stop, the cramping was terrible. I don’t know if this was due to age or not but it did seem I had a harder time than other younger moms.

Then 9 months later I was pregnant again, and our baby is due in just a few days! I am very lucky compared to some of my friends who are trying very hard to get pregnant at our age and cannot. I also had a very easy pregnancy with next to no morning sickness.

We chose to wait until this time in our lives because we have a stable home, stable jobs, a clear idea of how we want to raise our child, self reliance (unfortunately not much of a support system: my husband only has an aging and infirm mother, and my family lives in another city), and self confidence in our values and our earning capabilities. We are smart and creative and plan to work hard to pass these characteristics on to our daughter. When we do the calculations and realize we’ll be retiring right as she goes to college, we get the willies a bit, and its a bit of a shock to think that if she waits as long as we did to have children, that we’ll be in our late 70’s/early 80’s. But medical science has gotten us this far, and the 40’s are the new 30’s right?

All we know is this was the right time for us and we couldn’t be more excited and ready for our baby to arrive.

Share your thoughts – we’d love to hear from you

Sharing Our Perspectives: Feedback from Penny

Penny and Son

Penny and Her 3-Year Old Son

Penny, mother of two, saw the article about us in Austin Woman and felt compelled to write. More to come (we hope):  

Here are some basics (I wanted to share). I would like to be interviewed too:

I had my first child at 35 (now 7yo) and second child at 40 (now 3yo). I am a Type 1 Juvenile Diabetic (diagnosed at 23) and both pregnancies considered ‘high risk’. Both were c-sections. I work full time as an oncology social worker and my husband is a middle school choir teacher.

I did not consciously choose to have children later in life, but I guess I took the ‘scenic path’ towards marriage. I had several long term relationships that were not especially marriage/child focused. Meanwhile I worked in various jobs while basically remaining a ‘professional student’. I wound up with an unfinished PhD in Australia and then completed my MSW in 2004 in Chicago and got married the same year.

Biggest ‘do-over’ wish is that I had given more thought to how strong the urge would be to stay at home with my kids. I like my work, but find working full time serving the needs of cancer patients and being a mother somewhat overwhelming. (One income is not sufficient enough to support the 4 of us.) That said, I LOVE being a mother!

Sharing Our Perspectives: Feedback from Lynnette

Lynnette from Washington State gave us feedback on her AMA pregnancies and perspectives:

Sharon: How did you react to getting the Advanced Maternal Age stamp on your medical chart (or having that label applied to you) What did it mean to you, if anything?

Lynnette: With my 1st pregnancy at age 38, I was worried even before I had my 1st doctor appointment. Then every visit was a slap with ultrasounds, tests and lectures on how my age may effect the outcome. I read as much as I could on the subject. I was alone in my peer group. When my son came out healthy and completely perfect, I knew any future babies would be a blessing no matter what. 

Any talk about A.M.A. went in one ear and out the other with the next 2 babies.

Sharon: Do you identify yourself as an “Older Mom”? If yes, what does that mean to you?

Lynnette: Yes,  I proudly let people know that I am an older mom. I have been asked about 3 times if I am my children’s grandmother and it was a little bit of a shock the 1st time but soon, I got tickled at the notion to surprise people of my age and that my beautiful boys are all mine.

I feel it’s important to put it out there that no matter what age you are, your desire to be a mother, by whatever means that is, is natural and should be accepted as nothing more than that!

Lynnette and her son

Lynnette and her son

A healthy and mentally sound woman of any age can be a mother.