Sharing Our Perspectives: Feedback from Julianne

 

Julianne wrote us as she was expecting her first child at the age of 38. We can’t wait to hear the rest of her story!

Julianne as an Expectant Mom

Julianne as an Expectant Mom

 

Q:  How did you react to getting the Advanced Maternal Age stamp on your medical chart (or having that label applied to you) What did it mean to you–if anything?

A:  I knew the risks and rewards before starting the whole process. I knew that it could be harder for me to get pregnant, and that kids of older parents are at greater risk for certain conditions. However I also knew that the time was right for my husband (currently 42) and myself (currently 38). We started trying a couple of years ago and I got pregnant within 4 months of discontinuing birth control. I then had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I do think that this was meant to be because it put the pregnancy and our lives into a certain perspective and allowed us to know that this was truly what we wanted. The miscarriage itself was not traumatic to me, though sad. The aftermath of the miscarriage seemed to go on forever, the bleeding wouldn’t stop, the cramping was terrible. I don’t know if this was due to age or not but it did seem I had a harder time than other younger moms.

Then 9 months later I was pregnant again, and our baby is due in just a few days! I am very lucky compared to some of my friends who are trying very hard to get pregnant at our age and cannot. I also had a very easy pregnancy with next to no morning sickness.

We chose to wait until this time in our lives because we have a stable home, stable jobs, a clear idea of how we want to raise our child, self reliance (unfortunately not much of a support system: my husband only has an aging and infirm mother, and my family lives in another city), and self confidence in our values and our earning capabilities. We are smart and creative and plan to work hard to pass these characteristics on to our daughter. When we do the calculations and realize we’ll be retiring right as she goes to college, we get the willies a bit, and its a bit of a shock to think that if she waits as long as we did to have children, that we’ll be in our late 70’s/early 80’s. But medical science has gotten us this far, and the 40’s are the new 30’s right?

All we know is this was the right time for us and we couldn’t be more excited and ready for our baby to arrive.

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