Our Wish List for Healthcare Providers

Bill of Rights

Women who are 35 or better with their first pregnancy have some wishes to share with their healthcare providers, including obstetricians, midwives and nurses. We consider this to be a request, but candidly, it is almost a “bill of rights” that all pregnant women need to get these things for both support and comfort.



  1. Treat us as women first and patients only when we need medical attention and supervision. Women have been having babies for thousands of years. Many of our grandmothers had healthy children after age 35 and 40.
  2. Carefully review our medical histories before you discuss our risk factors. This is especially the case for those who have been seeing you for gynecological care for many years.
  3. Do not warn us of risk factors unless they are our personal medical problems. There is enough literature on high-risk pregnancies.
  4. Provide us with the option for tests and sonograms that are not routine for all pregnant women. We want the choice to have more or less prenatal care beyond the basics.
  5. Listen to our questions and present multiple points of view when possible, referring us to additional reading and resources where available.
  6. Share ideas and resources for any challenges we face, including those that complement the care you are providing.
  7. Comfort us and remind us that we are pregnant women, strong and capable no matter what barriers we face to a healthy pregnancy.