Sharing Our Perspectives: Emily’s Feedback

Emily is a 52-year-old woman who is pregnant for the first time and used donor egg IVF to conceive. She wrote us recently and we are hoping to hear more of her story. Her baby is due in August 2014.

Sharon:  How did you react to getting the Advanced Maternal Age stamp on your medical chart (or having that label applied to you) What did it mean to you–if anything?

Emily:  I expected this, as I started trying in my 40s. Now, 5 months pregnant for the first time at age 52 via donor eggs, the old age factor is par for the course.

Sharon: Do you identify yourself as an “Older Mom”? If yes, what does that mean to you? If not, tell us about that!

Emily: It’s exciting, but also scary. I have told very few people, only a few friends. I still have not told my own mother, as I fear her reaction will contain no small amount of negativity. I do not want to have to defend my position. At the same time I am somewhat embarrassed to be so old and pregnant. Publicly I will be proud, but I do feel isolated. Thankfully I have a very supportive partner.

Share your thoughts – we’d love to hear from you

Remembering an Anniversary and a Loss

LossThree years ago this week, our hopes and dreams of adding to our family were dashed. We actually gave up trying to have our own child, a sibling for our son.

After two losses through miscarriage in 2009, we were told and truly believed that my “old eggs” were the problem with getting pregnant and we had opted to try a fertility treatment.

Donor Egg IVF seemed to be a logical choice since we knew that I was otherwise healthy, could get pregnant and was able to carry a baby to full term. My husband’s sperm checked out fine. Our son was healthy and two and a half years old. I was 42 1/2.

The process was fairly long in my opinion from the initial consultation to the implantation of the two fertilized embryos some six months later. Most of the time was in selecting a donor for the eggs, the clinic communicating with her, and them preparing her to ovulate and produce many eggs for the IVF process.

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