Sharing Our Perspectives: Feedback from Karen W.

We pose a two questions to first-time moms of age 35 or better to see the range of perspectives and ideas that women across the country have on the core topic of this website and upcoming book.

Sharon: How did you react to getting the Advanced Maternal Age stamp on your medical chart (or having that label applied to you) What did it mean to you–if anything?

Karen W.: I thought it was funny. I didn’t feel old at all and when the nurses would ask me if there was anything unusual about my pregnancy, I would always respond in a very dramatic and doom filled voice that I was afflicted with Advanced Maternal Age (AMA). I had other complications in both of my pregnancies that trumped AMA – that really was the least of my worries.

Sharon: Do you identify yourself as an “Older Mom”? If yes, what does that mean to you?

Karen W.: No.  It never occurred to me. In my 20s I was focused on my career, in my early 30s I found the person i wanted to share my life with and having kids didn’t even occur to us until I was 35 and it definitely didn’t occur to me that I was too late to the game. After having 2 kids, I understand now why having kids after 35 can be significantly harder – I liken it to my ability to recover from a long night out on the town. When i was 25 I could stay out until 4AM and be at work by 7AM with no issue. At 35, if i stayed out until 4AM I would be ruined for 3 days. I see how you must bounce back much more quickly if you have kids at a younger age.

Share your thoughts – we’d love to hear from you